Recently I came across an article where the author talked about the development of a person’s thought process and how it starts to develop from the very moment when it smells the air for the first time. Each of us go through similar stages of personality development throughout our lives. It is a continuous process till the time we finally lose our breath. In due course of this development there are external factors that effect this series of actions. The social and economic factors, the educational influence, parenting are few of them that effects the personality of the person. We talk so much about empathy and putting ourselves in other people’s situations and blah blah. With the new age spiritual revolution, a lot of effort has been put worldwide to motivate and uplift one’s own soul and mind. Motivational speakers are quite “look-up online” personalities nowadays. I am a great believer in this whole new idea of self awakening. Our social media handles are full of such uplifting videos and quotes to find happiness the easy way. But do we really apply these learning in our lives? Or is it just that 1 minute of viewing a motivational video or 3 seconds reading a spiritual quote and then we go back to being our old self? Are we too crowded in our minds with social stigma to make some space for some serious and realistic awakening? Is this not one of the ways our personality also develops?
Being from a land of huge diversities, there is a lot of pressure on not only just the genders but the way one should think and present oneself in different ages or phase. Irrespective of men or women, there are serious issues where people are judged everyday and that affects the optimistic side of one’s personality.
Arranged marriage is an institution which is celebrated hugely in my land. At times there are 2 sisters, one is a little prettier. The guy comes to marry the other one but leaves after making a deal to marry the prettier one because, DUH! She’s pretty, right? She will be a great arm candy in front of the relatives and office colleagues. Now imagine what actually goes through the mind of the other sister. Boys are pushed to study science in high school when clearly one of them could have shined as a successful author. Again why, because you are a boy who will turn into a man who’s soul purpose of life after college is to make money and provide security to another girl and rather write off another new generation. Being a writer will be something creative and that equals to an insecure lifestyle. Much to this classical conditioning, throughout his entire life the boy (who absolutely by all means turns into a perfect man) struggles with his inner personality and the one he portrays to the world. Our whole lives basically become nothing but lies. We talk so much about staying true to ourselves….if only we were actually allowed to do so!