Ain’t they precious?
Ain’t they petrifying?
At times we wanna relive them.
At times we wanna remove them.
If only it was not controlled by time and age……..
But what if you were not able to do any of that? What if you remember fragments of your existence? The times when you look at your hands you cannot recall how these hands held that of your lover and spend hours together? How you laughed to the silliest of things?
The feeling of lack of physical control and daily functionality of mind going beyond forgetfulness is a dreadful phase. Majorly the thing that I am talking about here is not really curable but as the symptoms grow the right medication helps to keep it under check.
It was heart breaking to see a close friend’s mother suffering from Alzheimer’s disease. From what we thought was plain forgetfulness, it grew on to her in forms of time lapse, loss of memory and paranoia. With delusions becoming part of her routine, we had to unlearn and relearn our ways to keep things seem normal around her.
I do not know how many of you would read this, but a few experiences that I would like to share that might help a few of you.
Ask for their opinions on random things around the house. May be let him/her choose your work/school outfit. Make them feel that their opinions are important.
Set a daily routine for them. The rhythm and pattern helps them get a mental timer.
Ask for their help to do simple household activities. For example, ask their help to do the corners while making the bed. Ask if they can fold a few clothes for you.
Play soothing music. You would find that a lot on YouTube. With earthy elements these instrumentals help them feel relaxed and connect to a few fragments from their younger life. Let them be emotional. Let them feel vulnerable around you. That means comfort.
Agree to whatever they say and ensure you are composed enough to not get into a deeper discussion or argument.
Most importantly, remind them that they are safe around you!