It’s a different kinda thing….

We love to be surrounded by people who will appreciate and listen to us, don’t we? The laughter, the compliments, the peace, the light-hearted conversations. The times when you know that the person is just one call away. That person who is always ready to dig into the same shit like yours. It is a piece of cake for that person to know how you feel and what you feel just by reading your texts…..and it gets even weird when that person speaks your mind when you say nothing at all. The ticket to comfort, that person makes you feel home whenever he/she is around. Do we all agree?

Now you must be thinking I’m being silly with extra cheese and talking about love. Yes, you are right. I am talking about love. I mean why not? It is the biggest superpower we can absorb from the Universe. It can make or break worlds. But over here, I am not here to talk about the worlds that has got names. No I am not here talking about families, friends or lovers in general but that one person who is above all that. That one person who knows all your flaws and that person is never hesitant to feel weak around you. Vulnerability is not an option but a habit when this person is around. Updating that person about every thing that you do, everything that you feel……and that person is right there for you, like right there all the time. And the best part is that person never encourages you to let it loose all crazy and go all over the place. Such connections are rare and real, ain’t they?

Believe in that bond you share. It is just like that ripple in the pond when you drop the pebble into the water. Each time you think or see the person you radiate positive message and that will never go wrong in pulsing out love in tomorrow’s reality. Reality is tough, love keeps you going. Stay calm and give time when there is a dent in the equation. Respect each others secrets and aspirations. Above all, feel blessed that you got one such person in life with whom you can talk about your weaknesses and makes you stronger. Not many people are lucky!

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Life is a ticking timer…

Humans as we say are social animals. We are sucked into this whole galactic feel to please people with a intention of security. Family, friendships, marriages and so on, each relationship has its own vibe and aura. We are all running after these bonds we share because it makes us happy. The shoulders are right there for us when we need them. That peace is not material and it can never be measured. Our world revolves around these beautiful set of amazing people who makes the existence worthwhile. We start taking this existence for granted thinking they are here to stay. And then  a time comes when we grow apart. School’s over. College’s over. Jobs rule our weekdays. Priorities change. Happens all the time, right?

Now if you look into it carefully, out of so many people we meet, only few we remember for the rest of our lives. Good or bad, we cross paths and the memories are unforgettable. We crave for the memories and the thoughts take us away from reality at times. It is so interesting to see that our human minds at times start dreaming so hard that it makes us extend those memories into our unfulfilled or unfinished wishes or promises. It makes us regret the reality. The different lives that join with our stories are sometimes not stagnant. But the depth of bond comes in disguise of attachments. Once the ties are non-existent we start  looking out for options to fill that emptiness. This insecurity makes us look for alternatives and that is when we make superficial choices. This applies for all. Be it a best friend, a parent or a lover. And then comes some other kind of relationships which are special to us but beyond any explanation. These are the evil sweet ones which makes your day for reasons known only to those whoever shares the bond. The inner jokes, the amazing match of thoughts, it is just so damn positive! Finding alternatives to these ones are sometimes never possible.

So as I write this, I cannot help but wonder, why do we even look for an emptiness filler when the void can never be helped? The attachments we share with each person are all different. With love it all grows. We stay because the other one sharing the bond listens to us or does not mind to stay with our imperfections. With time what we do not realize is that when the bond becomes a habit we become control freaks. Now that we are comfortable with the relationship we try to change the dynamics according to our perspectives. Sometimes we call it sacrifice and sometimes this become a tool to sabotage the attachment. Eventually, we start finding the bad in the relationship and we create drama episodes for ourselves! I mean, like why? Are we not paying for Netflix already?

If that person is really a special one and in the long run you will be happy no matter what, why will you even think of ways to get rid of the bond? They made a mistake and repeated the same thing and you got trust issues? Or they stopped listening to you so you just wanna make your life like a social media handle and block that attachment forever? We say “there is no smoke without fire.” All we do is see the smoke and ignore the fire. Rather than finding ways to stay away or finding flaws why not we look into the times we were actually happy and laughing and found ways to keep it alive? I mean yes, there are times we wanna run away from abusive or attachments that question our dignity. This is justified. But this is not the case all the time. Is it?

Hold on to the attachments because time is life!